(Inside: Check out the 3 simple rules for effective boundaries for neurodivergent kids using the CPR method from Empowered Neurofamilies so that you can set boundaries that your neurodivergent kid actually follows.)

Does your neurodivergent kid ignore every boundary you set? It’s because you aren’t using THIS method!

Over the next 5 minutes, I am going to walk you through my exclusive CPR Method for setting boundaries that actually work for your neurodivergent kids.

And because I know that setting (and actually STICKING TO) boundaries can be a struggle, I put together a FREE masterclass that walks you step-by-step through 5 shifts to effective boundaries for neurodivergent kids.

Click here to access the instant-play free Boundaries Masterclass!

Prefer video? Check out the video-version of this blog post above.

Now in the next 5 minutes, I am going to walk you through the 3 rules for setting boundaries that ACTUALLY work for neurodivergent kids with my CPR method.

The CPR Method outlines the 3 rules needed to make sure your boundaries are effective for your unique neurofamily.

And the best part is that it’s entirely custom for your neurodivergent kid specifically.

C is for Capability

First, we need to look at Capability.

Your child should be capable of every boundary that you set.

So ask yourself, have you seen them meet the expectation before?

Do they currently have the ability, development, and skills needed to follow this boundary?

Because if they don’t, there’s absolutely no way the boundary will be effective.

That doesn’t mean that you give up on the boundary, though. It means that you start to focus on building the specific skills necessary to make this boundary work.

Note: It’s okay if your child doesn’t follow the boundary all the time—that’s capacity, and we talk about that more in the masterclass!

But if you’ve seen your child do this thing before, you’ve passed the Capability requirement. :)

P is for Precision

Next we have P - and this is for Precision.

For a boundary to be effective, it needs to be PRECISE.

Because our kids are like mini-lawyers, and if we don’t know where the boundary line is, they will surely bend every line and find every single loophole

Our neurodivergent kids are like mini Elle Woods—they always win!

So for a boundary to be precise, we need to know exactly what counts and what doesn’t.

Let’s walk through an example.

If the boundary is “no wrestling”, what exactly does wrestling look like?

Does pushing count? What about kicking? How about grabbing someone?

My guess is that you think all of those count, but your kids might not.

For a boundary to work, you have to be on the same page about what is and is not allowed.

R is for Reason

Finally we have R - and this is for Reason

As much as I wish we could just say “because I said so”, our kids need a real reason for the boundaries we set.

Most of our kids will struggle to do anything without a clear and specific reason.

It’s just how our brains work.

Also, this rule is helpful when we tend to set boundaries that don’t actually matter simply because we’re annoyed.

(Or maybe I’m the only one that does that!)

But making sure that we not only have a good reason, but we make sure our kids understand the reason is absolutely vital to making sure your boundaries actually work for your neurodivergent kids.

Ninja tip: Make sure your reason is something that exists outside of you or your child.

Because the truth is, your kid probably doesn’t care about your wants or concerns.

#SorryNotSorry #TruthHurts

So instead of the reason for your bedtime boundary being that mom wants you to go to bed, instead make it because human bodies need sleep.

These dang human bodies. They’re the worst.

So each and every boundary you set needs to follow these rules:

Your child needs to be Capable
You need to be Precise
And there needs to be a Reason

Now setting boundaries is one thing, but sticking to them can be a struggle, so I put together a FREE masterclass that walks you step-by-step through 5 shifts to setting AND sticking to effective boundaries for neurodivergent kids.

Click here to access the free Boundaries Masterclass.